Last weekend I was in Normal, Illinois, with my university, and a lot of other universities across the midwest, and even the northeast, the south, and the southwest. MBLGTACC, the Midwest Bisexual Lesbian Gay Transgender Allies College Conference, is the biggest LGBTQIA conference in the country. I spent three days networking, looking at graduate programs that are LGBTQIA friendly, and doing workshops on queer issues. I had a blast and I was able to listen to Laverne Cox, a transgender woman of color most known for her role on Orange is the New Black, speak on issues that face trans people. I also got to listen to her talk about being a successful person and never giving up. The message of her keynote address was definitely one of hope. I have been to pride nearly every year since I was fourteen and my uncle took me for the first time in Minneapolis. But being around about three thousand university students and making friends with them, including filling an entire auditorium with trans people, was absolutely incredible. I didn’t want the weekend to end.
I started the spring term on the fourth of February. I’ve been busy with school and working about thirty hours a week. I have 400 pages of reading due a week. I am writing so much and thinking so much but I love it all. I should graduate next year. It could be the year after that depending on a few things, but I am on track to finally graduate.
On Thursday, I celebrated three years of transition with a friend that is also trans. We met in October at a conference at a local university. We went dancing and ate pizza. I had a wonderful time.
Last night, my Dad called my sister, the one I live with, and she started using my birth name and she and her pronouns, and I asked her if she would please stop. She said, I know you are Blake. But Dad hates calling you that, and I don’t want you to come between my relationship with him. I said I don’t want to do that, either, but last month I was almost arrested, last weekend I was kicked out of a restroom, last summer my Dad outed me in public and I am lucky that my mother got me away before something happened. I said that misgendering me is very dangerous. She said we were in the apartment. After she left to go back to school (she’s graduating in May and basically lives at school) I called my Mom and just said, I’m upset, and I don’t know if I have the right to be upset. So we talked for a while and I explained why I was upset, and my mother said she would talk to her.
They were talking this morning and I walked into the kitchen and my sister called me Blake. Which she does, unless we are around my Dad, or extended family. I have told people that if they continue to put me in dangerous situations, I’m not going to come to family functions, and I’m not going to be around them, because I can’t do it anymore.
But other than that, things are good. I’m saving up all of my money for my surgery this summer. Next month is two years on hormones. For the most part, things with family are good. I feel pretty good about my life.